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18 August, 1998
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Rod in action at The Riverton Rendezvous, July 2001.
Photograph courtesy Jay Hagan.
A Thought for Today
Nothing beats sunlight in judging a work
Rod is on the road for a
couple of weeks and will be back with you sometime during August.
In August of
1988 you wrote a very important message that was part humor and part
morality lesson and you added one of my favorite McKuen poems from "The
Beautiful Strangers," "They Find You".
I consider it
one of the best.
Kogen, Amsterdam Holland.
RULES FOR THE REAR END OF THE ROAD
It's all right to be
eccentric, but like dying unexpectedly or drinking a little too much, try
to be odd or odd ball on your own time. For one thing it saves a lot of
explanation later, for another your unusual behavior might be considered
beyond unusual by another. How much nicer to be thought of as slightly
eccentric than dismissed as certifiably crazy.
Never use naughty words when pretty words will do. Used in every
conversation, shit is mere sensation, heavy, as opposed to do-do. Say
fornicate instead of screw. The former has more syllables and can be
stretched out to better effect. Besides it's hard to say fornicate without
The only think more useless than a telephone in an automobile is a
telephone at home. Oh, the inhumanity . . .people can reach you, disturb
you, invade your thoughts and offer you trips. Folks can become downright
personal on the telephone. You might be bonding with your cat, the phone
rings and somebody wants to talk about their dog.
Chat rooms are not all that chummy. Too many questions. If you say you're
young they expect you to be [or hope you are] a sex fiend. If you admit to
being a little more mature in life they assume you're too old to cut the
mustard or ask if they can come and nurse you. And you know where that
leads. Mind you, I'm developing some more rules but these should be enough
for a Tuesday in mid-August and anyway I'm late. Beau has promised to
navigate me to room where a certain German dominatrix is said to be
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you hear the music, join the singing.
Being a lover doesn't necessarily make one
capable of loving.
The best way to climb a hill is to put one
foot in front of the other and start up.
THEY FIND YOU
||They find you in the darkest night
in all the central parks,
at every shopping center mall,
along each stitched-up lane
and bowed, leafytree cotillion,
in the school, pool, fool-around rooms,
and at the smelly deli,
where tired office workers
nightly order carrot salad
and chickens from a spit.
they find you.
As each river
never fails to meet its ocean
as water levels into water
and earth goes back to earth again
so too, people of like needs
find and find out about each other.
However long the wait.
Should you travel from yourself,
beginning your ascent/descent
before the final door is closed,
the last mile hiked,
like as not they'll find you.
Even those still unaware
that they've been lost
and those too occupied
to see the searcher coming
and look up
will not be left
somewhere between the dark
They too will be uncovered
and found out.
So it is that life
takes care of us
if we will let it.
Be not afraid, they find you.
Always waiting is a risk.
even if they last but minutes,
are lost and not regained
while we depend on others
to be the foragers and pioneers.
All of us are prospectors
fossicking for love
the terminals of time,
little more than evening vespers.
Perhaps we underestimate our worth
for there are strangers out there
strong and warm and beautiful
who look for us.
Do not wait.
Love is not so much
as it is a multi-colored maze.
Hide-and-seek is a single game
as finders and the found
are the same sides of a single coin
tossed in the air and spinning.
There are no losers
when everyone is bent on winning.
And if you go out
looking for them
surely they will find you
sooner than expected.
-from "The Beautiful Strangers", 1981